Hello Dears!
After a short break, it’s very nice to meet with you, again…
I have re-organized my collectives to support you; not only concretable or technical; but even in mental!
Aaaand the conclusion…! :)
If you have been practising in your life what you’ve read in this blog; you must have got some steps on your way.
I guess that you have enjoyed to notice on yourself how you and your life have been changing and evolving because of your journey to be the woman is more attractive, purposing and takes her way elegant.
You have been talking to the people who can support you on your way at the elegant meetings as caring attention on you by your attitude, elegant manners, nice words you choose and self-confidence.
The Meetings with New Friends :
You are with ‘’the people’’ in ‘’the meetings’’.
Some of these people are not only the supporter and also closer to you in mental and emotional!
You have started to talk and laugh together; having the common sense of humour and the places to visit, regularly…
That’s great!
But please remember:
These so cute guys are still ‘’friends’’; not the ‘’best friends’’…yet.
They will be but you need time… Let them take their time, too.
Do not spill all your secrets out, emergency! :)
You can see if a person is a friend or closer from 6 months and more.
Of course you can meet with them, at all. But you must evaluate how you get closer to each other…
Listen … No Judge … Get Closer …
In the restaurant…
having a nice talk, laughs, foods and drinks and all are enjoying…
One of you has started to share a memory by the familiar night, drink and just because of the night, may be because of you…
Listen. Don’t judge.
Listen genuine, caring your attention, by your heart, focusing on understanding.
If it’s a nice memory you can share the joy. If it’s sad, consolate with a few words without exaggerating.
Behave common… Show no mercy, no judge, no generalizing.
No one expect to face by these kind of effects by the friends; so do you! The pals and the closer people don’t say as ‘’Oooo! This is nothing, dear! I see many as you are, hohhohhoo. Come on, cheeers!’’…!
Even, when the family can sometimes say ‘’Oh, daughter! We wished that you wouldn’t do…’’, The one even don’t think to say as ‘’I wished…’’ so, that's closer.
Listen elegant, take a sip, smile nice… get closer...
You already know every one in the world has both of sorrow and happiness inside. Life goes on. Because this is life.
Take your time… Be patient…
Of coourse you will also share your sorrow lives with you, with your wonderful new people, soon. Take your time...
They don’t know you, well, yet; neither do you…
If they are not ready to understand you; you can loose those cute people because of your impatience. Easy…
Of course you can’t talk too common. It is boring. And it doesn’t tell how your pesonality is, actually.
So you can talk about your job, shortly…
talk a bit about your potential projects; only a few small and funny stories about your family skills… talk about your interests, the places you’ve been and liked…
and see if you have any common with your new friends and talk about…
be cheerful and heartily.
Don’t complain of your husband and don’t do gossip of your bussiness frends, don’t do jokes which make only you’ve laughed! :)
The people don’t know you, well; they can’t understand that you are not complaining actually, but you are asking their advices.
You can wait, a little.
About Politics…
It’s not good to be the first, who talks about politics.
And if you need to talk about politics, don’t be sharp on your opinions.
It shows you masculine. You can be close to femininity and warm.
Generally, be positive about people, family, neighbours…
Don’t be fore-judge.
The people and also you like to be near the free-minds. You feel free and comfortable with them. Then you can be more lovable…
Because, our mind works by matching the emotions with the notions.
You can become what kind of descriptions you give your mind.
For example:
If you say that your neighbour is rude; then you have described the rudeness to your mind and you have prepared yourself for rudeness.
And Now, You Become Rude while talking to your neighbour!
You can be used your mind to match with warm and peaceful notions. Who knows Dears, this sort of thinking can also match you with another unexpected happy coincidences! ;)
What you have in your mind; that’s you are.
So please describe the positive notions to your mind. It also makes you healthier in mental and body conditional.
Keep yourself away ‘’over-reacting’’ and ‘’letting the emotions drive you’’
Being realistic always saves.
The emotions drive you out of your way. Beside, the big emotions can cause the people to hesitate from you. Because your new people can’t guess how you react.
So you can behave by thinking and take your choises by your mind, intellectually.
In Conclusion…
As i have told you my other articles, no one can disguise to elegant for a while. You can be elegant or you can’t.
Being heartily good makes you nicer and polite which are very important conditions being elegant, as you’ve already known.
Empathise with all the creatures in the world.
When you face to a matter perceive that how you can fix it.
I wish you allow the favority and charity to match in your mind.
It will make you more beautiful and elegant…
be happy and joyful…
ilhan hande
the next article:
I have noticed that, when some kind of peculiarities and some unexpected happennings, you can feel strong to decide how you behave you keep your elegance; but how you behave you can’t. I will give you some clues which can make your job easier . Our key words will be: ‘’compassion’’, ‘’intelligence’’, ‘’graceness’’.
