How Can You Handle With The Unexpected Occurs
Enchantée… How are you?
How hard is your life or how hard is not? This is life; it is how it is… And now, you can say that you can take your own way as staying at the game, can’t you? That’s fine…
Today, let’s have a look at the occurs which happen suddenly and unexpected; so, it leaves you about screwed-up. But you can handle it not to look fool or panic; contrary as taking the appreciations and elegant.
Suddenly happens and unexpected! What can it be?
When you are at the appointment is 60 km far from the city; you’ve been called by the school to let you know that your child has injured; it’s good in the hospital… anyway you must take the control and be near it, emergency.
While you are getting ready to go out; your relatives’re knocking at the door!
You have planned to have some snacks for the evening, so you may have made whole the day is yours… rrriiing! Your husband says that he has invited the parents in law for dinner.
You are so chic, driving the car… A cat comes to the street, too exhausted and even it hasn’t noticed your car! (You wouldn’t drive over, ofcourse!!!)
Friends tell you about some kind of privacy… because they know that you don’t spread the talks to the third person. But… They have already shared your secret; and you hear your secret from anyone… :)
Your husband has organized the surprise party. But it is surprise… I mean, you come home in the trainers, sweating from jogging… And the neighbours, friends, relatives have shouted ‘’Surpriiiiiiise!’’. By the way, on your living room wall, it’s written with big fonts as ‘’happy birthday your 33rd!!!’’ (A friend of mine lived that.)
How shall you behave?
Keep Calm.
First of all, keep calm. Think the situation easy.
Answer these questions:
Describe the problem.
What is the problem, exactly and how is it’s emergency? You have described the problem. So, is it a life matter? Or someone can’t handle the things without your support.
Are you really the subject to solve the problem? I mean, does the solution depend on you; or, someone try not to take the responsible and give the jobs on your back?
Describe your own situation, just on that time.
If the solution depends on you; describe your situation to yourself.
How is your situation?
Are you in the kitchen and the hands in the flour; in the operating room, the hands inside of a stomach; at the manicure, at the office meeting; at teaching your class; in the dressing cabin…?
How far are you from the central of the problem?
''I’m coming to 10 minutes… I need 1-2 hours to arrive… The problem is just over here, and looking at me.''
Time Management
The most important ability is to manage the time.
You can do many things and reach many places at the same time as managing the time by the right way.
Now, you will also solve your unexpected problem.
If you are far away the solution point; start to solve it on the way.
Analyze what the problem is, your current location, the measure between you and the solution point.
Just on the way, think what you will do.
If you're going to your child has injured; learn exactly, where your child is. It will prevent you loose time. After you interest your child, you can plan to figure the responsibles and the reasons of the accident out.
Guess the market on your way for your unexpected guests. If you don’t know, you can figure it out from the internet. Think two cold, two cooked foods, an easy salad and a dessert to buy on the way. Make a list in your mind to buy from the market? Do you have enough money with you, or credit card? Or would you call your husband and make him bought your shopping-list. Then, you can start to prepare at home while he’s shopping. Yes, you have already got a farewell for tonight would be only yours… But it is for tonight. The family is the point.
Couldn’t your friend keep your secret? Smile gently, and behave that’s so regular matter and you have already told it anyone and laughed… Or, if it was a bit tragedy (like suspecting your husband’s loyalty); then, say that this story was a trap for your friend (who spread your secret)… because actually, you have seen his husband with someone… but you have hesitated to say that sort of thing and you wanted to know if she knew anything about her husband… Because you are a very good friend and she would have a shock. Be sure that your friend will agree with you about the rumour lady has been cheated. Unfortunately, the people love the rumours. And now, you’ll naturally think twice before sharing your secret. ;)
You’ve just come home to run for a shower… and, you’ve faced by a ‘’surprise party’’… Plus, the writing on your wall! Smile! Big big smile!!! How could you do anymore? Smile with a laugh and thank to everyone. Then say to stop here and not to go anywhere… Then run to the bathroom. You have 5 minute to look nice. You can do that… You can’t hair-dry; it’s alright! The less is more, you know. Ahh! The writing on the wall: Your age 33. How you wish to be, your age it is… A woman is ageless. The genlemen know that. But the gentlemen are the product of the elegant women. Patient and determination… Girls, go on! Well, what we were saying… Yes, you can talk about your wall with your husband in the morning, specially. He will always remember this conversation, if he loves you… But, not tonight. Your husband has thought you, tried to make you happy. So, have fun! Be happy and make happy at the rest of the night… Seriousness may be in the morning…;)
While you are trying to arrive at a party; a cat’s stopped on your way and doesn’t leave. You have opened the window and pleased to help for the kitty. As if they pretend to send it away, they have hesitated to harm their chicness and grace??? Then they quit the cat to live it’s fate. (How big looser they are! They say that the cat can die in a car-crash to save their pretended chicness!!! ) You can’t behave this way. This is not chicness but the inhumanity and the rudeness.
Stop your car on the way, and as all the curious stares are on you, send gently the kitty ayaw the road even on your attracted stilettos… If you have the custom to carry the cat meal in your car, you may conveniens the kitty, easier! And go back your car so chich and admirable, no-care to no one…
When you do it confidently, you are very special and elegant. And no one can take it from you. You are amazing!
P.S. 1: I have lived that and i behaved completely as i’ve told you. Accept my best, dears…
P.S.2: The clumsiness and rudeness will show you clumsy and rude whatever you wear on you. You have lost the elegancy and never catch. Only the people can’t use their mind and the people can’t decide which way they behave is better, are clumsy and rude. You can’t be that.
In Conclusion;
How forceable, urgent and even upset the occurs are...
You can keep calm and talk easy.
You can plan step by step by using your mind.
You can keep your compassion to all the creatures in the world and focuse on the matters to solve and positive. (Except the rumour-spreaders and the rudes… they may not deserve your compassion… it depends on you.);)
To fuss; to shout to the people, running everywhere out of control, try to add people are not about the occur, to force people to do somethings, to be negative, to disturb, to cry to the children and husband, complaining at all loudly, etc make a woman rude and far away the femininity. Even the people who wants to help, run.
The best is you to be elegant.
Your inside, soul, talk, treatments… when angry, fun, scared… allow elegant.
The silence, intelligence and compassion make you a reasonable grace, elegant woman.
Please remember:
These words are from a woman to you, who knows that you can always be much better than you are and believes you…
The compassion and love find a place inside of you… And the unexpected occurs you have faced are nice surprises and happy news…
I wish you have the joyous days.il han il – han
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How can you keep the balance between the training exercises, diets and your privace life doing all at the same time. Beside dressing, colour and decollate choises, the things you have to carry with you… Write to you soon…
